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How to Start a Spiritual Conversation

by | Updated February 18th, 2015 | Posted in Ministry, Evangelism and Outreach

How do you start a spiritual conversation with those who don’t know Christ? Here is a superb way I have tried that works great with co-workers, neighbors, friends and family. It is something I learned to use to share the gospel when I’m not going door-to-door in our church’s Outreach. You can use it in the checkout line, at the post office, at the gas station, or anywhere there are people. It is easy to remember and is one word which is the acronym “FIRM.”

FIRM is from Darrell W. Robinson‘s book “People Sharing Jesus.” Use FIRM an acronym to easily remember what to say when conversing with someone you want to share the Gospel with. The first thing I recommend is to pray before, during and after the conversation, or during a prayer walk.

Here is a fact you can always know for certain. You will never meet a person that God does not love. They don’t exist. You will never meet a person that God does not want saved. They don’t exist.

Even bad witnessing is better than no witnessing at all. God is more glorified in weaker vessels than He is in polished speakers or slick presentations. There is power in the Word of God and the Holy Spirit does the actual calling to Jesus by God the Father (John 6:44). Here is what the acronym FIRM stands for and what it entails in the evangelization process.

Family: Find common ground. Where did you grow up? How long have you lived here? Where are you from? Tell me about your family? Do you have children? How many children do you have?

Interests: Ask about what interests them. Is it sports, schools, hobbies, or work? What do they do for a living?

Religion: The world is very spiritual, existentialism, yoga, Wicca, etc. Do you have a church in town you attend? What’s your religious background? Do you think about spiritual things very often? Then just…listen.

Message: Have you come to know Jesus Christ in a personal way or say you are still in the process (leave them an easy out)? Here are the possible responses that you may receive:

When they say, “yes,” ask them “When and how did you come to know Him? Do you think you know Him personally?”

When they say “no,” say “May I share with you how you can come to know Him personally?” If the say no, say “Do you mind sharing with me about your reluctance to know Christ?” If the say that they are still in the process this may actually mean no…or it may be their way of wanting to know more. You can ask them, “Then have you given some thought to it” or “may I share with you how you can come to know Him personally?”


If they decide to make a decision right there, here is the way to ensure that they understand the Gospel and how they can come to believe in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. It is not about receiving Jesus into their life or into their heart, but it is based upon belief: Believing that He was God, came to earth and born of a virgin, lived a perfect life, died for our sins and was resurrected so that we might be resurrected someday. You can copy this down or memorize it. This is a simple decision card that you can use to lead someone to Christ. It is as simple as ABC.

A. Admit you are a sinner. “There is no one righteous, not even one … for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23 and 6:23). Ask God’s forgiveness. “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.” (Romans 10:13).

B. Believe in Jesus. Put your trust in Him as your only hope of salvation. “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16 – also see John 14:6). Become a child of God by receiving Christ. “To all who receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.” John 1:12 (See Revelation 3:20).

C. Confess that Jesus is your Lord. “If you confess with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” (Romans 10:9 — also see Romans 10:10).