How to Start a Spiritual Conversationby Jack Wellman | Updated July 18th, 2015 in Ministry, Evangelism and Outreach
How do you start a spiritual conversation with those who don’t know Christ? Here’s a method that works great with co-workers, neighbors, friends, and family. It’s a tool I use to share the gospel when I’m not going door-to-door in our church’s outreach. You can use it in the checkout line, at the post office, at the gas station, or anywhere you meet people. It’s an easy to remember acronym, “FIRM.”
FIRM is from Darrell W. Robinson‘s book “People Sharing Jesus.” Use FIRM to help you remember what to say when sharing the Gospel with someone. Always pray before, during and after the conversation. You will never meet a person that God does not love. They don’t exist. You will never meet a person that God does not want saved. They don’t exist.
Even bad witnessing is better than no witnessing. God is more glorified in weaker vessels than in polished speakers or slick presentations. There is power in the Word and the Holy Spirit does the calling to Jesus by God the Father (John 6:44). Here’s how to use the acronym FIRM in the evangelization process:
Family. Find common ground. Where did you grow up? How long have you lived here? Where are you from? Tell me about your family? Do you have children? How many children do you have?
Interests. Ask about what interests them. Is it sports, schools, hobbies, or work? What do they do for a living?
Religion. The world is very spiritual. Ask questions like, if they have a church in town they attend. What their religious background is. If they think about spiritual things very often. Then, just listen.
Message. Have you come to know Jesus Christ in a personal way or are you still in the process? Here are the possible responses:
If they say yes, ask them “When and how did you come to know Jesus? Do you think you know Him personally?” If they say no, respond with, “May I share with you how you can come to know Jesus personally?” If they say no, say “Why don’t you want to know Christ?” If the say something like they are still in the process, it may actually mean no, or it may be that they really want to know more. Ask them, “Have you given some thought to it” or “May I share with you how you can come to know Him personally?”
If they decide to accept Jesus, make sure they understand the Gospel. Salvation is not about receiving Jesus into your life or heart, but is about believing Jesus was God, came to earth, was born of a virgin, lived a perfect life, died for our sins, and was resurrected. Copy the following or memorize it. It’s as simple as “ABC:”
Admit you are a sinner. “There is no one righteous, not even one, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23 and 6:23). Ask God to forgive you. “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved” (Romans 10:13).
Believe in Jesus. Put your trust in Him as your only hope of salvation. “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16). Become a child of God by receiving Christ. “To all who receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.” (John 1:12).
Confess that Jesus is your Lord. “If you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” (Romans 10:9).